QUESTION FROM A Ji :
I am in a great problem. Whenever I see any young lady, sexual fantasy take place in my mind.I always do simran for little time. ple inlight me. I m 27 yr old bachlor.
REPLY 1 FROM DASSAN DAS Ji:
REPLY 2 FROM H :
REPLY FROM DASSAN DAS JI:
God Bless you. Good way to get over lust, is to go to sleep early, stay away from late night tv, porn websites. Become solid in your amritvela 2.5 hrs. If you are not married, then marriage helps alot, after you have kids lust naturally reduces. Plus within marriage sex is not considered as lust as Dassan Dass ji has written, so there is no guilt and shame attached to it. If you are not married and are young, then masturbation is your only outlet for this powerful energy within you. Baba ji said that “masturbation is God playing with himself, teaching you about sex. Otherwise your parents never taught you, so He teaches you himself.” It is not shameful or to be feeling guilt about it. It is made by the creator , it is part of your body and energy. It is lust when the sexual energy, urges and cravings and desires RUN YOU, control you, make you into a slave. Best thing we found was avoid external infulences like late night TV, porn websites, friends who are lustful. Spend more time on amritvela and seva. get married have kids. And if you do masturbate once in a while as an outlet, then just do your Satnaam simran, rather than fantasising about anything else. Keep your mind in the moment, keep doing Satnaam and then desire goes. Baba ji said sex is not bad, it is man’s desire that is bad. Baba ji said even during sex keep donig your Satnaam, dont become a slave to the enjoyment of sexual pleasure.
This path is not about making sex and masturbation as bad, then feeling it is a shameful act for which we must be punished. you wont be able to stop masturbating, until much further into your bhagti when the job of sex is done. so are you going to keep on feeling guilt and shame (destructive qualities) until that day?
Dust of your feet.
Dandaut bandna ji.
In the begining these attacks are common. we need to be really strong internaly, with simran otherwise we will always loose to these evils.